The decision to give up a baby for adoption is life-changing. After you have decided to put a baby up for adoption, you will have to decide which adoption agency to use, which family gets the baby, and whether or not you would like to stay in touch with the baby after adoption.
Making these decisions will help you have a less stressful pregnancy and a smoother adoption experience. Here is what you need to know about these three important decisions before placing your baby up for adoption.
1. Which Adoption Agency Will You Use?
Adoption agencies are all different, so the first thing you will have to do is look for the right adoption agency for you. Different adoption agencies may follow different procedures and offer birth mothers different levels of control throughout the adoption process. When making this decision, start by examining the different processes at each agency you consider.
Are you expected to pay for lawyers, medical care, adoption fees, or travel during the adoption process? Some agencies help birth mothers get through adoption without paying anything, while others may require birth mothers to pay for some services. Look for the agency that will enable you to get through the adoption process while staying within your budget.
What does the agency do to ensure that each child is placed in a safe and loving home? What is the home study process, and how thorough is it? Answer these questions and find an agency with processes that make you feel comfortable.
Reputation and Professionalism
Reputation and professionalism are critical for a sensitive process like adoption. When you sign up with an agency to place a baby up for adoption, choose an agency that is reputable and well-established in the community. You need to consider many things when trying to gauge an agency’s reputation and business processes:
- Testimonials. Research testimonials and real-life stories about experiences with the adoption agency.
- references. Some adoption agencies may provide references that you can contact about their experience with the agency.
- Process. Different agencies will have different processes for facilitating adoption; consider all processes when trying to choose the agency for you.
Explore the agency’s website to read as much as you can. Read their about section, FAQs, and any information about their philosophy, customer service, and commitment to professionalism. Call agencies that you are seriously considering, and ask them questions until you find an agency that makes you feel comfortable.
2. How Will You Choose a Family for the Baby?
Agencies commonly give birth mothers the ability to choose the home where their baby is placed. Choosing the family is a big responsibility. Consider your priorities and how you would like the child to be raised. Factors to consider include:
- Presence of siblings and pets
- Approach to parenting
- Environment where the child will live
- Financial security
The agency you choose may give you the ability to search through profiles, scrapbooks, letters, or home studies to choose the right family for the adoption. If you are not sure what you want, write a list that will help you sort out your priorities. You might want to write a description of the ideal family for your child. This will help you sort out what is most important to you.
3. Will You Stay in Touch With the Baby?
Some birth mothers choose to stay in contact with the adopting family, while others do not. You will need to decide for yourself how often you want to have updates and what kind of contact you’d like to have with the adopting family. Once you know how involved you would like to be, you will need to communicate your wishes with the adoption agency.
Write a plan, including how often and what kind of contact you would like to have with the adopting family. Putting your wishes in writing will help you solidify your plan, think through the details, and ensure that others will understand and follow your plan.
Work With Your Adoption Specialist
The decisions described above are difficult for birth mothers to make, especially for birth mothers who have never gone through the adoption process before. Working with an adoption specialist at a reputable adoption agency can help. Your adoption specialist can answer your questions and give you perspective that can help you make decisions.
Getting started early in the pregnancy can help ensure that you have the time you need to make the right decisions for your child. If you are pregnant and want to place the baby for adoption, contact a reputable agency today.
At A Child’s Dream, we provide expertise and assistance for birth mothers during the adoption process. If you have questions about placing your baby up for adoption, contact us today for more information. We look forward to helping you during this important time.